Sex, Weight, Health, and Beauty
by Jane on Nov.19, 2007, under Posts>How To>Keep In Shape
This is an old topic. But I would like to give my opinion on it because I think my point of view has never been made by anyone else.
I believe health is the basis for real beauty. To be attractive, one does not just need to look attractive, but also needs to have passion and desire, which only exist in a healthy person.
Being overweight is not healthy. Being too slim is not healthy either.
Can you eat enough to stay healthy but not too much to get overweight? I guess so. Most of us know that keeping a healthy diet and exercising will help.
But here is my trick, keep yourself busy with work so that you won’t be looking for food to eat all the time. Some people can really get so busy and worried that they do not have time to eat or do not have the desire to eat. Just make sure that you do eat when you get hungry. Otherwise, you will fall into the unhealthy category opposite to being overweight.
When you do need to eat, always pick the kind of food that need more preparation. This is because the more time you spend on preparing your food, the less time and desire you have to eat it. Also, pick the kind of food that need more chewing. Chewing is what we really want when we feel like eating. Chewing gums are not recommended all the time though. Most chewing gums have sugar and some other ingredients that are not good for health. Eat fruits, including dried fruits (preferably without preservatives), and vegetables instead.
Another important trick is to refrain from sex, especially when you are still young. The more sex you have, the more difficult it is to control your weight, or more specifically, your waistline. Some women, especially young American women, seem to think that if they get a guy to have sex with them, they are better than other women. So they look for sex wherever they can. That kind of women are more likely to gain weight, and then feel bad about their inability to control their weight, and then look harder for guys to have sex with to prove that they are still attractive and to feel good about themselves, thus getting into a vicious cycle.
Another issue is, do you need to be tall and thin? Like the twin towers, things that are tall and thin look more attractive. So models need to be tall and thin to help promote fashion designers’ products, and men who need to prove their wealth or success or attractiveness need to date tall and thin women, and women who need to prove their attractiveness need to be tall and thin. Other than that, there is not much need for women to be tall and thin. Enjoy your life, and don’t let others control your perception of your worthiness.
Anyway, if you still want to be tall, here is one suggestion I would like to make an attempt to make. If you can have the same good life in the north as in the south, growing up in the north, that is, farther away from the equator, may help you grow a little taller than growing up in the south, that is, closer to the equator. The farther away from the equator, the bigger a living creature, be it a plant or an animal, can grow.
By the way, I prefer cheer leaders and marching band girls over fashion models.
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December 6th, 2007 on 5:17 pm
Although you make some really good points, I disagree with your outlook on beauty.
Health is a big factor for beauty, but nowhere near the basis. Your right that to be attractive one does not just need to look attractive. Make up and other products can do a lot for a person. But really, passion and desire only exist in healthy people? What about people with terminal illnesses? These people hold more passion and desire then anyone.
Being to far to one side or the other on of the scale is unhealthy. It also lowers your confidence, which takes a toll on your beauty.
Your diet is a real important ingredient to staying beautiful. Sadly, most Americans are overweight because they can’t afford to eat a proper diet.
Every person needs to find their own eating habits that allow them to maintain a desired weight. Since people have such different body shapes its hard to say that your eating “trick” would work for someone else. You also said health is the basis for real beauty. But being busy and worried leads to a lot of stress, which is extremely unhealthy and demanding on the body. Stress also leads to irregular eating habits that could cause you to be unhealthy. People need to learn to eat in moderation. If you eat when you are hungry and stop when you are full, it should keep your weight steady. If your not extremely hungry just eat a snack. If you feel that you just need to get something in your stomach share a meal with someone. You don’t have to get all filled up in one meal, besides leftovers are great, that way you have something to eat when your hungry later.
Refraining from sexual activity while your young shows beauty in another dimension. Your generalizations about sex are inferring a slippery slope. This isn’t the case for everyone. How does having sex make it more difficult to control your weight? Sex is a great way to burn calories. But I’m curious about what it does to your waistline.
People should never feel that they are better then someone else, although many do. Women who have sex with every guy on the block don’t do it to make themselves feel better about other women; they do it to make them feel better about themselves. Because these young women lack confidence they use sex to make up for what they believe are their insecurities. Participating in this activity often times leads to a declining confidence level and like you said a vicious cycle.
Since you don’t have a choice to be tall or not it isn’t really an issue. Fashion designers’ use models that are tall and thin to promote their products because cloths tend to hang better on this type of body shape. Men who need to prove something wouldn’t necessary choose a woman because she was tall and thin. They would look for the most beautiful woman who only cares about their appearance and who would be totally rapped up in their money, which might make a really good couple because they would have something in common. Humorous that you say women who need to prove their attractiveness need to be tall and thin, considering they have no control over this. Women who are not considered tall wear shoes to make them tall so that they can prove their attractiveness. So if everyone could just have the confidence to love what God gave them everyone would be much more happy, and in turn much more healthy.
They say everything is bigger in Texas for a reason. I could be wrong, but I do believe better crops are produced in the south. so your suggestion that living in the north allows for things to grow taller might be invalid. But coincidentally, I recently moved from the north to the south and actually I think I’ve grown a few inches.
I have never been too fond of cheerleaders or marching band girls; they always seem to be the ones who feel the need to “prove their attractiveness.”